A few years ago, I was sitting in the airport terminal waiting to board my flight. The purpose of my trip was not a happy one; I was flying from Indianapolis to California for the funeral of my daughter Sheila. My mind was flooded with thoughts and vivid memories of my precious girl, who had just lost a three-year battle with breast cancer at the young age of 31, leaving behind two beautiful little children.

As I watched people pass by—some hurrying toward their gates, others arriving from distant places—I wanted to shout to the world with every bit of air in my lungs, “My daughter just died!” As silly as it may have seemed, I wanted the world to stop for just one minute and acknowledge my little girl’s life. As I thought about it, I realized that what I really wanted was to know that Sheila’s life mattered.

My pain in the airport was still freshly imprinted on my mind as I stood at the podium in the chapel, in front of the friends and family who had come to acknowledge my daughter at her memorial. Sadness was painted across every face as I looked around the room. It was packed, with every seat taken, people lining the walls, and some even spilling out into the lobby. Scanning the crowd, I knew then that Sheila’s life did matter. The evidence was in the faces of all people present—those whose lives she had touched.

One of the most important lessons that my daughter’s death taught me was that, deep down, everyone wants to know that their life matters, that it has meaning and purpose. One of the worst feelings a person can have is the sense of irrelevance, the feeling that they are not important and that their life is worthless. It’s a terrible feeling, exacerbated by something inside of us which tells us that we need to matter, we need to have a purpose, our lives must have meaning.

People wander in many directions in obedience to the inner desire for meaning and purpose. Sadly, what many do not realize is that genuine meaning can only be found in the divine, through a deep connection with the Creator—something that cannot be fully satisfied until the day we are united with Him and His Son in the Everlasting Kingdom.

As silly as it may seem, the very popular band U2 captured the essence of this desire in their song, “I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For.” If you’re like me, you have heard this song a thousand times or more; but have you ever stopped and really listened to the lyrics?

I have climbed the highest mountain
I have run through the fields
Only to be with you, Only to be with you.

I have run, I have crawled
I have scaled these city walls
Only to be with you, Only to be with you.

But I still haven’t found what I’m looking for. (repeats)

I have kissed honey lips, Felt the healing fingertips
It burned like fire, This burning desire.

I have spoke with the tongue of angels, I have held the hand of the devil.
It was warm in the night; I was cold as a stone.

But I still haven’t found what I was looking for. (repeat)

I believe in the kingdom come,
Then all colors will bleed in to one, bled into one
Well, Yes, I’m still running.

You broke the bonds and You loosed the chains
Carried the cross of my shame, of my shame…

You know I believe it…Well, Yes, I’m still running.
But I still haven’t found what I’m looking for. (repeat).

Even though many have found the Lord,  we haven’t found what we are looking for yet in the sense that we all desire heaven on earth, a time when we will be together with the Lord in his Kingdom. Thankfully, the day is coming in the future when we will never say again, “I still haven’t found what I’m looking for.”

For the video of the song with lyrics go to: link to song: